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The old name change argument
6:13 PM Posted In feminism , marriage , sexism Edit This 3 Comments »Today, Bronn made a subtle reference to marriage by hinting that I would change my name in the future. He does read my blog upon occasion, so you would think that he would realize I am a hardcore feminist. Here's pretty much how the conversation went:
I asked him, "What makes you think I would change my name?"
His answer: "Well, if you want the ring you'll change your name."
"What if I don't want a ring? You know that an expensive, shiny bauble doesn't mean much to me."
"It just seems wrong to me if you kept your name."
"Why is it wrong?"
Not much of an answer.
"What if we chose a completely different last name and we both changed our names?"
He made a couple of jokes, and I let it go after saying that we would cross that bridge when we come to it. And we would definitely be revisiting that topic.
I asked him, "What makes you think I would change my name?"
His answer: "Well, if you want the ring you'll change your name."
"What if I don't want a ring? You know that an expensive, shiny bauble doesn't mean much to me."
"It just seems wrong to me if you kept your name."
"Why is it wrong?"
Not much of an answer.
"What if we chose a completely different last name and we both changed our names?"
He made a couple of jokes, and I let it go after saying that we would cross that bridge when we come to it. And we would definitely be revisiting that topic.
3 comments:
Heh. J and I had that discussion too. After a little back and forth, we hyphenated our last names. I took hers, she took mine. Seemed like a good symbol for forming a family, might work for you guys. :D
~Reave
We're going to think about it. It would be a lot easier if he wasn't literally the last male of his family with an extremely rare last name.
Bwahah, that's a funny coincidence, I'm also the last male in my family, and while our name isn't exactly rare I'm taking ten kinds of flack from my father and gradnfather over the name change. You'd think I'd defiled a monument or something. The funny thing is, my father in law told me he was "honored" that I took his family name. So, I take my wife's name, and her family is honored while mine is all pissed off. *sighs*
~Reave
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